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A ‘what was I thinking’ parenting moment….

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I was in the same room as Aaron, but ignored him for two minutes while I finished something at the counter…..won’t be ignoring him with paint at his disposal again!

the last day of august

august 31, 2014 found us at the shelter valley folk festival. we’d never heard of it before, despite it being fairly close to where i grew up. but we saw a poster, decided to go just for sunday for an end of summer adventure. it was one of those times when, as parents, Stephen and I were able to declare as we got in the car at the end ‘we did a Good Thing.’ but man these Good Things we do for our kids (like zoo trips etc) are exhausting!!!!!

hot and tired, so not too enthusiastic about the music....

hot and tired, so not too enthusiastic about the music….

waiting for the music

waiting for the music

the cool thing was that, on the sunday morning, one of our favourite singer/song writers was taking part in a ‘workshop.’ his name is Danny Michel, a canadian from kitchener-waterloo. isaiah has also loved him since he was about 3, and danny even said hi to him! (though isaiah wouldn’t shake his hand, so i don’t think danny knew what to do with him:)) and because one of the things isaiah wants to be when he grows up is a musician, it was cool for him to see danny setting up his guitar, tuning, sound checking, and performing in real life.

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if you’ve never heard of danny michel, isaiah’s favourites are tennessee tobacco and wish willy. but there are so many good songs i’d suggest you just start with this page of videos from his website.

the other delight of the festival was discovering some new musicians. our favourite was a really amazing….ukelele player! not what i was expecting, but i love him. check out james hill, and his cellist wife, anne janelle:

http://youtu.be/KV2nZF-pZ1g

 

 

Nerve: 12 Ways to Be Afraid (and Keep Your Cool)

Originally posted on Therese J. Borchard:

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Taylor Clark has written a very compelling and insightful book about anxiety, our amygdala (fear center in the brain), and, in general, what makes us freak out in his new book, “Nerve: Poise Under Pressure, Serenity Under Stress, and the Brave New Science of Fear and Cool.” It was hard to choose which stuff to excerpt, but ultimately I think his “12 Ways to Be Afraid” at the end was the most helpful … what to do with all the research we just learned.

“I’ve built up a short list of the most effective, proven methods that psychology and neuroscience have to offer,” writes Clark. “Fear is a fact of life. All we can do is learn how to be afraid in the right way. So herewith, a dozen quick tips to get us started.”

I’ve excerpted from and consolidated his 12 steps below.

1. Breathe.

By consciously controlling our…

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The twelfth day of august, the humidity brought to us splashing in the backyard

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Peas!

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The fourth day of august meant returning to Toronto, and reuniting with daddy after his trip (but I don’t have a picture of that). The 5th day of august involved a trip to the farmer’s market where we got peas! The boys eat them as fast as I can shell them.

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The third day of august was grey in Belleville, so it included some drawing, but also a trip to Wellington beach in prince Edward county, despite the clouds!

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The second day of august included making, and eating, chocolate chip cookies

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..and eating a lot of fruit!

The first day of august found us happily at my parents place

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two years with two children!

two years ago right now, i was still waiting for aaron peter to make his appearance. his due date was June 30 or July 1, and i was convinced he’d come early….and the evening of july 2 i was still waiting. at 11.30 pm, just as i went to make one last bathroom trip before bed BAM! my water broke, and a crazy hour and a half later aaron peter made his appearance outside the womb. poor guy was purple, he came out so fast….fortunately the purple faded:)

purple baby

purple baby

isaiah meeting aaron

isaiah meeting aaron

no more purple:)

no more purple:)

he's been our smiley guy for a long time (fortunately the rob ford resemblance has also faded!

he’s been our smiley guy for a long time (fortunately the rob ford resemblance has also faded!

these two years have been very challenging. i haven’t had a good night’s sleep in two years. my mood issues have worsened because of that, and because of the constant, incessant demands of two children. i (and we) have in a lot of ways been living in survival mode for two years.

and yet….these of been two years full of the incredible, almost inconceivable reality that a creature came out of my body, and a whole person is evolving out of that strange alien baby. and what a person! aaron peter exudes joy, delight, enthusiasm, and cuteness. he’s outgoing, clearly an extrovert, unafraid of people, of life, full of love. he gives the sweetest hugs and kisses. overall he really is truly is the laid back southern boy i requested! (though it must be said that he moves a little bit more quickly at this point in his life, than his southern daddy:))

last summer

last summer

he loves getting messy

he loves getting messy

beach baby

beach baby

i have no idea why his face is red

i have no idea why his face is red

DSCF5956 DSCF6031the cuteness just overwhelms me….God’s beauty shines through

 

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